sannheten om menn & kvinner..

Store deler av kvelden har jeg brukt til å analysere forholdet mellom oss jenter og det motsatte kjønn, sammen med en av de andre "frustrerte frøknene" som er veeeldig frustrert! En gang lærte ett x meg at menn og kvinner aldrig "bare" kan være venner... og akkurat det har jeg vel egentlig skjønt for lenge siden men her kommer et lite eksempel på hvorfor det er så veeeeldig sant!


Sally: We are just going to be friends, OK?
Harry: Great, friends. It's the best thing...You realize, of course, that we can never be friends.
Sally: Why not?
Harry: What I'm saying is - and this is not a come-on in any way, shape, or form - is that men and women can't be friends, because the sex part always gets in the way.
Sally: That's not true. I have a number of men friends and there is no sex involved.
Harry: No, you don't.
Sally: Yes, I do.
Harry: No, you don't.
Sally: Yes, I do.
Harry: You only think you do.
Sally: You're saying I'm having sex with these men without my knowledge?
Harry: No, what I'm saying is they all want to have sex with you.
Sally: They do not.
Harry: Do too.
Sally: They do not.
Harry: Do too.
Sally: How do you know?
Harry: Because no man can be friends with a woman that he finds attractive. He always wants to have sex with her.
Sally: So you're saying that a man can be friends with a woman he finds unattractive.
Harry: No, you pretty much want to nail them, too.
Sally: What if they don't want to have sex with you?
Harry: Doesn't matter, because the sex thing is already out there, so the friendship is ultimately doomed, and that is the end of the story.

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Kort fortalt handler det om en stige.. og at man bør holde seg på någenlunde samme nivå på denne stigen.. man bør ikke jage etter noen som er mye høyere opp, eller noen som er lenger ned en deg selv... De har et veldig intressant stykke om exer forresten som jeg bare må sitere:


Exes
Exes are not a special case in the ladder. Usually when someone gets broken up with it's because the other person thinks they can do better on the Ladder. Or already has. If you didn't think you could do better why would you leave the one you were with?

The usual pattern for exes is to try to be friends, realize it's not going to really work, and then become more and more distant toward each other over time. In any case, if you continue to fuck for a while, then you continue to fuck. You wouldn't have had a relationship with them if they were not on the real ladder, so if it's convienient there's really no reason not to.

If you are friends, then the normal rules of how men and women can be friends applies. But it should be said, that many exes try to be friends because it seems like some shit they should do, when in reality one of them is hoping they will get back together or at least continue to fuck.


Hmmm.. noe å tenke over kanskje?!